Standing at Your Son’s Bris

Your son is about to enter the bris of Avrohom Avinu. This is one of the most powerful moments a father will ever experience. The joy is real, and so is the awe. You are bringing your newborn into a covenant that goes back thousands of years, the same covenant Avrohom entered for Klal Yisrael.

Trust it. Hashem gave you this child, and Hashem gave Klal Yisrael this mitzvah. The bracha you are about to say is not just words. It is a declaration: I am bringing my son into the covenant of Avrohom Avinu. As Pirkei deRabbi Eliezer (ch. 29) teaches, and Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh Deah 265:1) codifies through the father’s blessing, each Jewish father brings his son into the covenant of Abraham Avinu at the bris.

The blessings recited at a brit milah are codified in the Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh Deah 265), which lays out the brachos said at the bris, including the father’s blessing. The blessing itself is older than the Shulchan Aruch and already appears in the Gemara (Shabbat 137b). These are ancient words, recited by Jewish fathers for generations.

Before You Say This Tefillah

Before the bris begins, take a moment. Look at your son. This tiny person was placed in your hands by Hashem, and now you are bringing him into the oldest covenant in Jewish history. Speak to Hashem simply, from the heart:

Master of the Universe, I am prepared and ready to fulfill the mitzvah of milah, to bring my son into the covenant of Avrohom Avinu. Guard the baby, heal him quickly, and grant us to raise him to Torah, to chuppah, and to good deeds. God of Meir, answer me.

If giving tzedakah, add:

In the merit of the tzedakah I give in the merit of Rabbi Meir, who was circumcised in the holy covenant, so may You guard my circumcised son. Ribbono Shel Olam, I care for Your children, please care for my child.

The Brachos of the Bris Milah

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The father’s bracha is said between the milah and the priah, following the order laid out in the Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh Deah 265:1. The Gemara in Shabbos 130a cites a Baraita: any mitzvah that Klal Yisrael accepted with simchah, like milah, they continue performing with simchah. The community response, “k’sheim shenichnas la-brit… kein yikanes la-Torah, la-chuppah, u-lema’asim tovim,” expresses the classic threefold bracha for the child; this wording appears in Shabbos 137b and is brought in Yoreh Deah 265:1.

What These Words Mean for You

L’hachniso bivriso shel Avrohom Ovinu

“To bring him into the covenant of Abraham our father.”

This is the bracha recited by the father at the bris. It frames the moment not as a mere procedure, but as entry into the covenant of Avrohom Ovinu.

Dig Deeper

You are bringing your son into the covenant that Hashem gave to Avrohom Ovinu and his descendants. When you say these words, you are affirming that your son is entering that covenantal bond as part of Klal Yisrael.

K’sheim shenichnos labris

“Just as he has entered into the covenant.”

Those present respond with a tefillah for the child’s future. The bris is the entrance, but it is only the beginning.

Dig Deeper

They daven that this baby should grow to Torah, chuppah, and ma’asim tovim. Their words look ahead to the kind of life they are blessing him to build.

Asher kid’shonu b’mitzvoisov

“Who has sanctified us with His commandments.”

This is the classic opening of a bracha on a mitzvah. At a bris, it lands with special force.

Dig Deeper

You are holding your eight-day-old son, and you are saying: Hashem, You sanctified us. You chose us for this. At this moment, the words underline that the bris is an act of kedushah: Hashem sanctified us through His commandments and commanded us in this mitzvah.

L’Soiroh l’chupoh ul’ma’asim toivim

“To Torah, to the chuppah, and to good deeds.”

These words hold an entire hoped-for future.Three words that hold an entire life. Torah for the mind and neshamah.

Dig Deeper

Torah points to a life shaped by learning and avodas Hashem. Chuppah points to building a Jewish home. Ma’asim tovim points to a life of mitzvos and goodness. This is what the gathered community is davening for as he enters the bris.

How to Say This Prayer

The father’s bracha is said during the bris ceremony itself, between the milah and the priah. The mohel will guide you on when to say it. You do not need to memorize it ahead of time. Most mohalim have the text written out for you, or they will prompt you word by word.

But preparation matters. In the hours before the bris, when the house is full of guests and your heart is racing, find a quiet corner. Say the RMBH prayer from above. Ask Hashem to guard your baby. Ask for the zechus to raise him well. Let your kavanah be simple: “Hashem, I am giving You my son. Please give him back to me whole and healthy.”

Connecting tefillah and tzedakah at this moment is powerful. When you give tzedakah in the zechus of Rabbi Meir Baal Haness on the day of your son’s bris, you are pairing the mitzvah of milah with the mitzvah of chesed. Your tefillah and your actions rise together. After the ceremony, you may add: Elokah d’Meir aneni!

Give Tzedakah in the Zechus of Rabbi Meir Baal Haness

The Gemara (Avodah Zarah 18a-18b) tells how Bruria asked Rabbi Meir to rescue her sister, who had been condemned by the Romans to a house of shame. There seemed to be no way out. Rabbi Meir approached the guard with a bribe, teaching him to say “Elokah d’Meir aneni!” — “God of Meir, answer me!” — if he was ever in danger. When the guard asked for proof, Rabbi Meir threw a clod of earth at nearby man-eating dogs. They lunged to devour him, and he called out the words — the dogs turned away. The guard was convinced and released her, later using these powerful words to miraculously save his life. When we daven with these words, we are asking Hashem to answer our prayer in the merit of this great tzaddik and the miracles he merited.

Giving tzedakah in the zechus of Rabbi Meir is asking Hashem to hear your tefillah in the combined merit of this great tzaddik and your own act of chesed. On the day of your son’s bris, when you are already doing a mitzvah with your whole heart, adding tzedakah strengthens your tefillah even further. Those who say this tefillah often also turn to the jewish prayer for childbirth.

Rabbi Meir Baal Haness Charities was founded in 1799. It supports talmidei chachamim and families in need in Eretz Yisrael. The talmidei chachamim at the kever of Rabbi Meir in Tiberias daven for those who reach out to them. When you give tzedakah on the day of the bris, you are bringing the zechus of your son’s covenant and the zechus of your chesed together before Hashem.

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A Brachah for Your Son

You are standing at one of the most important moments of your son’s life. He is too young to understand it now, but one day, b’ezras Hashem, he will know what happened here. That his father brought him into the bris of Avrohom Avinu. That people davened for him. That tzedakah was given in his zechus.

May Hashem guard your son. May the bris go smoothly and the healing be swift. May you and your wife raise him to Torah, to chuppah, and to ma’asim tovim, and may he bring you nachas all the days of your life. And may the bracha you speak over him today echo through every year that follows.

You can submit your son’s name to the talmidei chachamim at the kever of Rabbi Meir in Tiberias at no cost. They will daven for him by name. And if you would like to give tzedakah in Rabbi Meir’s zechus as well, your chesed will rise together with your tefillah.

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